Some years ago, I discovered that trying to say "No" to holiday party invitations and events was nearly impossible, especially the ones that involved family. I had always heard that to control the stress factor around the holidays try picking a few events to attend and then decline the rest. It all sounded so easy and good, but I found that this philosophy did not work for me and my family. Firstly, I discovered that when I did turn down an invitation I would sit and wonder how much fun we were missing while we were not there. And, secondly, I found it to be more stressful trying to find a nice way -- or a good excuse -- for turning down family and friends. But recently I stumbled across some tips that made a lot more sense to me and seems to work much better for me and my family. I want to share these tips with you if you, too, have found it difficult to say "no":
1. Realize that this time of year is more hectic than other times, but hectic does not have to mean stressful. Plan ahead and involve all members of your family in the decorating and cleaning.
2. Keep the decorating simple. Choose your family's favorite things and skip the rest.
3. If you cook a holiday meal, bake a few dishes from scratch and buy the rest.
4. Don't diet during the holidays and allow your children to indulge some too.
5. If possible, spend time with friends in January rather than December. One of my dear friends hosts an after-holidays tea party for her friends. What a great way to unwind and enjoy some girl-time after the busy season.
6. Save some energy for your husband. You will both benefit from the time together.
7. Make memories full of joy and laughter. Your children and guests will remember the atmosphere of your home rather than any specifics.
8. Above all, celebrate the wonder of the Christ-child, born to give us life and life abundantly.